On Weddings and Marriage
Today is my wedding anniversary and a holiday and yet I still woke up at 5:40 this morning. Go figure. Now that it’s 7:10 and a little closer to the time I normally wake up, I am enjoying the day and the quiet in the house. Dogs and husband still asleep, and I’ve already been out for a stroll around the yard to check on my garden.I must admit that our wedding was pretty awesome–really, it was. We had all our favorite friends and family there, tons of tasty food, and a ten-piece soul band. I mean, it really was a good time. Had I been a blogger at the time, I would have given these five tips for people planning a fun wedding (as opposed to a Baptist mints and punch wedding):
Top 5 Fun Wedding Tips 1. Plan your wedding around the reception. While the ceremony is the most important part (you do have to get married after all), you will spend most of your time at the reception (probably 90%). It’s just simple math and logic–focus on where you will spend most of your time.
2. Unless you’re a professional, don’t DIY your most important elements. Most important to us were food and music. Therefore, we found a killer caterer, the aforementioned band, and three amazing ceremony musicians–organist, timpanist, and trumpeter. We DIY-ed the invitites and some of the table decorations.
Result of planning a fun wedding? Lots of dancing and smiling.
4. Share time with just your husband/wife between the ceremony and reception. Our venue had a little room that was private, and the caterer brought us our drinks of choice and plates of food. Although we were both too excited to eat much, this is one of my most favorite memories. We were able to sit and say sweet things to each other, actually visit with one another for the first time that day.
5. Buck tradition but keep tradition. At the end of the day, if you’re getting married, you’re participating in a pretty traditional thing. Don’t be ashamed and have some traditional elements–maybe a conservative dress, old-timey flowers, or classical music at the ceremony. Don’t be too traditional though–embrace what makes you two the couple you are and forget about tradition. Have stylish bridesmaids’ dresses, a sushi bar, or pink champagne.
Although remembering our wedding is so much fun, I have been married for two years now and should reflect on those years. I’ve learned a lot in those years and am still happy I married him. I’m pretty sure he’s still happy he married me, so that’s good too. Because this is a blog about learning, I’ll recount a few of the lessons I’ve learned in the past two years.
Lessons Learned 1. Be nice and thoughtful. 2. Surprise one another ocassionally. 3. Don’t nag unless necessary, but when necessary, nag. 4. Try to not compete with one another–for better jobs, money, talent, etc.–instead, appreciate the other for what he or she brings to the relationship. 5. Be honest.
And a final list.
What I Love Most about Edmond 1. He is creative. 2. He is always willing to help me whenever I ask him to. 3. He loves his mother. 4. He respects me more than anyone else does. 5. He encourages me.
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4 Comments on On Weddings and Marriage
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Faye on
Wed, 2nd Jun 2010 9:44 am
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Kristen on
Wed, 2nd Jun 2010 9:54 am
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Mom on
Fri, 18th Jun 2010 6:17 pm
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Kristen on
Thu, 15th Jul 2010 6:50 pm
Oh Kristen, this little list just made me tear up at work. What a good post!
Thanks! If only I could post about weddings every day.
Kristen, this is amazing. I am so proud!
Thanks, Mom!
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